I struggled to keep on top of the housework.
I didn’t do crafty things with my children.
I took shortcuts with cooking and didn’t prepare everything from scratch.
I worried that everyone would think that I was a failure if they knew, thinking that everyone else was managing to juggle it all.
What I didn’t know then but I know now is that not every mum out there has a spotless house, is doing arts and crafts, and preparing every meal from raw ingredients. Most mums, were also taking shortcuts like me.
Realising that was a turning point, because I no longer felt the pressure to be that ‘perfect’ mum and I could leave the guilt behind and just know that what I was doing, was perfect for me and my children.
Did my children care if there was some dust on the skirting board or if I chucked a pizza in the oven? Absolutely not.
They just wanted my time and energy, and the irony was that I wasn’t providing that while I was struggling to do all the things that I thought I should do.
So, if you are struggling to do what you feel you should be doing, let me tell you to stop struggling. Do what you feel you and your children need and don’t worry about the rest x